Please beware this is a long long entry...

the following is taken from my friend Xishi's blog....

August 19, 2005

Jerks are everywhere....

U guys must be tinking " why Xishi seems so anti-guys??" haha..but there are really alot of jerks around...

Heard a saucy piece of news from my friend just now.. she told me that she had a guy friend who finally got married a few yrs ago with his gf from Uni days.. The guy has been flirting non-stop since Uni days... finally married his gf... and after married he continued all these nonsense!! WTF!! Why married the gal when he wan to lead a Valentino-kind-of-lifestyle?? The wife can actually forgive her so-called husband and asked him to leave the gal.. FYI, the wife has knew all his flings all along.. Wao kaoz.. wat a big heart the wife has..

Then the guy told my friend dat he will break wif the gal, and u guess wats the reason given?? COS HE FIND THE GAL GETTING STICKY!! wao kao.. this guy is really a fucking selfish jerk who only care for himself.. He break wif the gal not becos he love his wife, JUST BECOS THE GAL IS STICKY and getting out of hand!! This means he did it for himself and not for his wife!! WTF.. i just tink this guy will never change, he will continue all his nonsense after breaking off with the sticky gal, TRUST GURU XISHI.. haha Like i said so many times, once married, pls be faithful, dun fool ard anymore. Pls show responsibility to the family... its really very important.

I dun wish to comment on the wife part, i tink it takes two hands to clap.. the husband may be tinking tat since my wife has been forgiving me, she WILL DEFINITELY forgive me again, so why the fuck stop??!! Some women are just so foolish tinking that the guy will change, BUT is difficult, maybe only when the guy turn 50plus and the dick cant stand then he will stop!! But now with VIAGRA, who cares!

I cant really say i pity the gal, she has the right to choose wat she want.

1. Divorce with the husband and carry on her life..the husband has been letting her down too many times.

2. Continue trusting her hubby that he will change, this may need God's help..

3. Still continue the husband and wife lifestyle, but wont bear any kids. Don't wish to give pain to the child with an unhappy family if they reallt decide to divorce down the road.

I know its easy for me to comment on pple's life, cos the needle was not pricked on me. Maybe when it happens to me, I may not be able to tink LOGICALLY at all..

Just like wat my mum told me, maybe she owes my father in her previous life, so this life she got to pay him back wat she owed him..thus my father has been letting her down so many times too....


Anyway I wonder the jerk above believe in KARMA?? If no, continue playing, next life will be pay back time..

firstly i felt pity in ur friend who married a jerk... but then hor... i dunno leh, alot of times myself, always tio rejected by girl... saying 'u r too good a man to be with, u deserve someone better'.... wat the hell sia... if we guy bad, we tio complain... if we are too good we will tio reject... like that how we lived? how we going to find love? haha but then it maynot be applying to all.

ok back to xishi's blog... hmmm how to say leh, i believed guys always are flirty around? hmmmm then also not all guys like that ba... i think that guy is still immature in thinking to get married and hence still anyhow bonk around. wonder if he knows about wat come around, goes around?

better wake up his idea loh....

but then some guys are good... remember wat i wrote about this couple who go around in bicycle to collect empty cans to sell together? wonder how much of these type of people still be around....

hmmmm... dunnooo...

as guys become more jerks, and girls not really chi de qi ku... think harder and harder liao...

so wat's love? something for u to rely on? or something to let u show others that u got someone?

how come some girls wanna be with jerks?

ok below are the common reasons why guys fail to get her.....

Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women?And How To Make Sure YOU Avoid Every One Of These Deadly Common Mistakes...

MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much Of A “Nice Guy”

Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted "nice" guys?

Of course you have.

Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.

What's going on here?

It's actually very simple...

Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.

And guess what?

Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.

And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.

I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT.

Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want.

ok, guys lets be jerk.... lolx....

MISTAKE #2: Trying To “Convince Her To Like You”

What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just notinterested?

Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.

Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!

Never, ever, EVER.

You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning".

Think about it.

If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her?

But we all do it.

When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.

Bad idea. One that will never work.

Dun try changing.... a lepord never change its spot...

MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission

In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission".

Another HORRIBLE idea.

Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER.

Don't get me wrong here.

You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.

But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again.

You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.

Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her...

MISTAKE #4: Trying To “Buy” Her Affection With Food And Gifts

How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did?

If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT.

Well guess what?

It's only NATURAL when this happens...

That's right, I said NATURAL.

When you do these things, you send a clear message:

"I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection".

Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.

MISTAKE #5: Sharing “How You Feel” Too Early In The Relationship With Her

Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on.

Attractive women are rare.

And they get a LOT of attention from men.

Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME.

An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.

And guess what?

Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.

That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.

They know what to expect.

And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.

This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves.

Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.

There's a much better way...

MISTAKE #6: Not “Getting” How Attraction Works For Women

Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.

You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.

When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.

But does the same apply for women?

Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?

Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.

Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?

Think about it.

Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.

If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.

And ANY guy can learn how...

MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks

One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age.

And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.

But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.

There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet...

And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.

YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.

Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women

Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.

Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.

Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.

Another bad idea...

Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to Wussies!

MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each Type Of situation With Women

Now I'm going to blow your mind...

A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.

Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.

I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.

And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!

And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating...

Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical... everything.

If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.

And you KNOW it.

It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman... from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.

MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP

This is the biggest mistake of all.

This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want.

I know, guys don't like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.

Hey, I've been there myself.

Let me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be successful with women...

About five years ago I became fed up with the fact that I didn't know how to approach, meet, and get dates with women that I was attracted to.

It frustrated the hell out of me.

One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn't get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night... right on the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating.

Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out.

I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. I've dated models, I've dated actresses, and I've dated nice, normal, regular girls as well.

It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling... like I don't know how to meet women... and I might wind up alone.

I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive women.

well the rest are simple... i lazy to say...

coz guys simple... girls complex... lolx